tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3581336870392578181.post2898610706295243001..comments2023-07-21T07:39:46.400-05:00Comments on Journey Without a Destination: The Relationship Series- The S WordAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08226208245192373615noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3581336870392578181.post-36872636901344380602015-02-11T18:50:49.249-06:002015-02-11T18:50:49.249-06:00The notion that part of us "belongs" to ...The notion that part of us "belongs" to someone is an off-color way of looking at sex and intimacy; that to engage in sexual intimacy with another person inherently changes who we are as individuals; that part of our physicality "belongs" to another person, when our bodies are our own. Think about how a survivor of sexual violence feels in reading that line. That "insanely intimate" part of themselves belongs to their abuser. <br /><br />Not everyone is going to view sex in the exact same way, and God likely understands that if they're (I don't personally think God subscribes to the gender binary or even has a gender) omniscient. <br /><br />That said, I did think of myself differently after my sexual debut. I came to love myself and my body much more and gained a special understanding of my sexuality as an individual. If you're going to posit that we think differently of ourselves after being intimate with someone else, understand that it isn't inherently negative if we never see that person again or inherently positive if that person is our spouse. Rachellenoreply@blogger.com